Mood:  chatty

    As everyone here knows I have two boys, one of which is disabled.  It is a hard life to provide for two children on your own but when one is disabled and requires so much attention it is even harder. 

    Sometimes, my youngest son feels neglected and that just hurts me to the core.  I want both of my children to KNOW for sure that if I were given a choice of all the children in the world to have as my own, they are the two that I would have chosen.  That I have NO regrets in my decisions I have made and I have always done what I believe is best for them even if they don't really see it that way at the time. 

    I guess I should go into a little more history first.  I was 25 when my oldest son was born.  I had just turned 25 about 3 weeks before he was born.  His due date was October 12, 1996 but decided to come 4 weeks early.  When he was born he had problems breathing right away.  He had something called stridor and had to struggle to breathe.  He had a tracheostomy put in when he was 3 months old.  When he finally came home after being in the hospital that time for 6 weeks he had 16 hours of nursing care in the home per day.  (Or at least that is what we are supposed to have).  He still has that amount of coverage allowed but with the nursing shortages that doesn't happen all the time.  We will go in to the nursing problems in a later post. 

    Allowing strangers in my house to take care of my child is a really hard adjustment.  That will also be covered more in a later post.  Right now I am just giving a brief history so that you can see where I am coming from and how I have had to adjust to this "odd" life that God has given me.  I have to tell you that I will mention God in these posts from time to time.  Don't get me wrong, I will not tell you that you should believe or that you should do this or that but in my life there are things that have happened that I can't attribute to anything else other than a higher power. 

    With this blog, I plan on going in to all the trials and tribulations of dealing with a disabled child, with an abusive ex husband, having strangers in my house taking care of my baby, being a single mom of two boys and having to balance all of these and still find time to have a life of my own AND how to not feel guilty about wanting and having my own life in addition to being a mom.  Mother's are women too.  They deserve their own lives outside of being a mom.  There are a lot of women today that feel like once they have children they are mom's and that is all they are.  I don't believe that is true.  This blog is for those that also want to have their own lives.  For those that believe that once you become a mom you lose your "woman" identity, I appreciate your views but please do not try to convert me to your beliefs.  I will do the same.  I know that one day, with God'd help, my children will grow up, become independent and have their own families and if ALL of my life is being a mom then I will be very lonely when they go.  I love my children and they come first in my life and my man understands that.  He knows what they mean to me but he also knows that he means the world to me too.  That there are times for just him and that makes us better together. 

    I appreciate comments and would love to hear from those that read my blog.  I would love to hear from those that have read this and it has made some kind of difference in their lives. 

    I hope you come back again soon and enjoy your time here.